tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post65675377024333574..comments2024-03-13T13:21:53.956+02:00Comments on Amel's Realm: Cross-Gender Friendship: Possible or Not?Amelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-38460986032926059712012-07-22T14:10:37.823+03:002012-07-22T14:10:37.823+03:00THANKS for sharing your POV, Jayce. :-)THANKS for sharing your POV, Jayce. :-)Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-40634299457810358172012-07-22T00:25:14.642+03:002012-07-22T00:25:14.642+03:00to sum it up. the main points are.. 9/10 people ma...to sum it up. the main points are.. 9/10 people make these friendships when one party is single, and thus based on genetics and a want to be with someone as more than a friend.<br />and really all other points seem moot when you are arguing thousands of years of evolution. i don't care how "mind over matter" you are you cant bend a spoon with your mind. And you can't deny that at some point the s*@t will hit the fan. At the very least someone gets jealous or a 'friend' is poisoning the relationship. anyone that's had enough relationships fail will understand that the couples that last are the ones with friends that are same gender, or with other married couples.<br />the naive have some learning to do and if it weren't for this very fact i'd toss my heart out a second time to my "friend".<br />and im one of those few guys that will simply stop talking to my -lady-friends when they have a significant other out of respect for her.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08053352337258081084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-34397441523155570892012-02-28T17:43:45.512+02:002012-02-28T17:43:45.512+02:00@Debra: THANKS for your insight. :-D@Debra: THANKS for your insight. :-DAmelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-70696514262777139702012-02-27T07:06:57.206+02:002012-02-27T07:06:57.206+02:00I have had this type of relationship and only with...I have had this type of relationship and only with a couple of different men in my lifetime (I'm 57). As long as you are both clear on the boundaries it can work out. It has for me.<br /><br />Debra<br /><br /><a href="http://www.pizzainbendoregon.com/" rel="nofollow">Pizza in Bend OR</a>Debra J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11488398025617167227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-66238268509340631332007-11-20T12:42:00.000+02:002007-11-20T12:42:00.000+02:00Hi, Fred!THANKS for your two cents. It seems to me...Hi, Fred!<BR/><BR/>THANKS for your two cents. It seems to me that everything depends on the person himself/herself and the partners they have. <BR/><BR/>I'm HAPPY to hear that you have had WONDERFUL female best friends. ;-D <BR/><BR/>I guess for some people, it doesn't work 'coz perhaps their partners are jealous or they've experienced something bad during the friendship, for example: they ended up falling in love for their friend, but their friend didn't love them that way.Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-65609747527604032012007-11-20T05:45:00.000+02:002007-11-20T05:45:00.000+02:00Of course it's possible...I seem to run into a lot...Of course it's possible...I seem to run into a lot of people on the internet who doubt that it's possible, but I have several friends who are women. They're my closest friends by far, and sexual tension just isn't an issue as far as I can tell. Jealousy isn't really a part of my personality at all, so I have a really hard time understanding some of the comments here I suppose, but any woman who tried to separate me from my female friends would not be someone I could be in a relationship or marriage with. These friendships are the most important bonds in my life, and I can't really imagine what kind of circumstances would make someone believe that such friendships are impossible.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-22193761007772064652007-09-14T11:37:00.000+03:002007-09-14T11:37:00.000+03:00Jay: THX for sharing your view. Sure about exchang...Jay: THX for sharing your view. Sure about exchanging links. Why not? ;-DAmelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-35507384330331198292007-09-13T23:08:00.000+03:002007-09-13T23:08:00.000+03:00i think it is possible!want to trade blog links? m...i think it is possible!<BR/><BR/>want to trade blog links? mine is http://jaysmoney.blogspot.com<BR/><BR/>if you want to trade, post my link then contact me back!<BR/>look forward to reading your blog!<BR/>thanks!Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04479640289038431760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-2005100712756034242007-08-15T09:43:00.000+03:002007-08-15T09:43:00.000+03:00Cues: FINALLY a different point of view! THX for s...Cues: FINALLY a different point of view! THX for sharing your story. But yeah, I can understand your insecurity if your fiance spends too much time with his female friends he he he...Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-41295118671632736912007-08-14T22:52:00.000+03:002007-08-14T22:52:00.000+03:00Thanks for leaving me a comment :)I really found t...Thanks for leaving me a comment :)<BR/>I really found this post interesting. My best friend is a guy I've known since I was in highschool. We have always been very close, and he's always been the one I turn to when I've had problems with my relationships. Now I'm marrying the man of my dreams, and my best friend is in a solid relationship, and we're still very close. I think that it does depend on the situation, the people involved, etc... I tend to get a little insecure when my fiance spends time with his female friends, but I'm learning to be better about it. <BR/>I think we worry someone might come along and steal our respective others away...<BR/>:)Cueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02344642905886837482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-40153811417930583412007-08-13T20:02:00.000+03:002007-08-13T20:02:00.000+03:00THX for sharing your experiences, Azhira. :-DTHX for sharing your experiences, Azhira. :-DAmelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-50674110680414201182007-08-13T20:01:00.000+03:002007-08-13T20:01:00.000+03:00I don't think they work. Been there, done that. ...I don't think they work. Been there, done that. My list of caveats is so long, I've decided it's not worth the trouble.Jadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12447206977031456640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-31700966593056204042007-08-12T11:50:00.000+03:002007-08-12T11:50:00.000+03:00Hi, Awannabe, THX for sharing your experience. :-)...Hi, Awannabe, THX for sharing your experience. :-)))Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-25690368112747461302007-08-12T04:39:00.000+03:002007-08-12T04:39:00.000+03:00I tried this with an ex... it didn't exactly work....I tried this with an ex... it didn't exactly work.awannabehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13249853324535721772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-3608560046500904812007-08-11T19:45:00.000+03:002007-08-11T19:45:00.000+03:00Everybody, THX SO MUCH for your time and for leavi...Everybody, THX SO MUCH for your time and for leaving comments! ;-D<BR/><BR/>Shan: THX for sharing men's point of view. I understand your points. ;-D Platonic friendship is indeed hard to keep if one finds the other attractive, eh? <BR/><BR/>Dawn: Ouch! It's crazy if someone's spouse comes second. That would be my doom scenario in the marriage relationship. Yep, I agree with you about the kind of friendship that men can have with women.<BR/><BR/>Max: THX A LOT for your two cents and for sharing your own personal experiences with guys. ;-D<BR/><BR/>Mother Hen: LOL!!! UR TRULY one funny lady. ;-D <BR/><BR/>Hope you all had a WONDERFUL weekend! I just got back from another cabin trip and I'll write again either tomorrow or Monday. ;-DAmelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-80549998588184435392007-08-11T02:59:00.000+03:002007-08-11T02:59:00.000+03:00This is easy.If my husband is involved, the answer...This is easy.<BR/>If my husband is involved, the answer is NO, ie cross-gender friendship isn't possible, irregardless who is the other person and how pretty/ugly.<BR/>If I am involved, then the answer is YES :)The Real Mother Henhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13226727195920798035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-43537894778788726782007-08-10T19:49:00.000+03:002007-08-10T19:49:00.000+03:00Hi girl,In my opinion: a man and a woman can start...Hi girl,<BR/><BR/>In my opinion: a man and a woman can start by being friends, but then the sexual tension always gets in the way (like in the movie "when Harry met Sally")! Four situations may occur: <BR/><BR/>1- the two begin to feel attracted to one another, and then up goes the friendship if they decide to try some sort of relationship (making-out/dating/ merciful-f****) and it doesn't work out! <BR/>2- they feel attracted to one another, one declares him/herself to the other, they romantically hook-up, and live happily ever after (this is rare)!<BR/>3- one of them feels attracted to the other, says nothing about it (not to ruin the friendship) and it is a mess cause then he/she shares his/her dates with other people, and he/she ends up by feeling jealous, awckward, whatever (cause people feel and react differently)!<BR/>4- he/she will declare him/herself, then hear the traditional rejection line "I like us as friends! You're my mate!"...years later one of them gets engaged, and still hears the other saying "I am really in love with you! Is there any chance for you to cancel that engagement, and stay with me?"...please!<BR/><BR/>Plus if you discuss sex with men, they always (they'll say that it's not true, but it is...I have all kinds of men in my family) end up thinking that you are sending them some kind of a signal! <BR/>I used to prefer to be friends with men, cause they are simpler than women; but then I realised that the result would always be the same, and I got sick of it! So, now I have very few trustworthy female, pro-feminae friends with whom I can discuss whatever I want (men, sex, period, weight, food, gossip etc), and be myself, without worrying if a certain body move is enticing the guy or not, if my touching my hair will cause any nasty thoughts lol...!!<BR/><BR/>CheersMax Coutinhohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12588149349270422294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-20781937494897262922007-08-10T18:46:00.000+03:002007-08-10T18:46:00.000+03:00I see this issue different. I know 2 people who ar...I see this issue different. I know 2 people who are married and they consider themselves best friends. It seems to me their spouses come second. Now if my husband was best friends with another woman it would definetly bother me because that is my role which is why I married him. I believe you can be friends but not close tell them all your thought friends. I don't see it working. I may be wrong but thats how I feel.dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10741158153974994260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4756387640551134005.post-29665259366000883432007-08-10T16:21:00.000+03:002007-08-10T16:21:00.000+03:00Hahaha! Most insightful!In my view, this is defini...Hahaha! Most insightful!<BR/><BR/>In my view, this is definitely possible and I think your husband recognise this with your last words. <BR/><BR/>Provided the opposite sex is not attractive, then a platonic friendship is definitely possible.<BR/><BR/>For me, I can be good friends with girls who I do not find attractive. This means I do not inquire so much, I do not think too much and therefore I don't consider them anything more than a friend.<BR/><BR/>But if the girl is pretty, no matter how hard I try to keep it platonic, chances are that I will fail because as a guy, we are biologically programmed to "mate" with the most attractive mate aren't we? hahaha!<BR/><BR/>For girls, I think it's possible but I am not sure. Girls, well you guys think much more differently and who knows, may fall for guys you don't find attractive if you know them long enough haha!<BR/><BR/>Jealousy is a curse but it's unavoidable. It's only avoidable if a human is totally secure of him or herself but that is never the case. The best thing we can do is give our partner our undivided attention and love at all times.<BR/><BR/>Have a GREAT DAY AMEL!!Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13021442035698052583noreply@blogger.com