Let me quote it here:
You know, I really hate to be the one that stands out from the crowd...
But the first thing that came to my mind after reading your post was something bad...
Maybe it's just me but they say the higher you are, the greater your fall is...
Men are a shallow species, believe me I know. Your treatment of your husband makes me feel that he is almost a God to you. That in many ways is very good because you will boost his ego and allow him to feel strong and secure.
Yet on another hand, it would be wise to perhaps stop what you are doing as we men get bored when there are no intrigue in our life. They say, women gives themselves up after marriage and that contributes to the break up of many happy marriages...
So, I feel that you should pull back a bit and perhaps give him a bit of intrigue and tickly his curiosity a bit. Don't give everything away.
Otherwise, I am delighted to join in the throngs of people in congratulating you!
Well, right after Arttu came back home from work just now, I asked him to read the comment and he said that it wasn't true for him. It may be true for some men (wanting a little bit of intrigue), but it isn't true for him. Well, I'm GLAD to hear him say that.
Another thing that crossed my mind when I read Shan's comment is that it's pretty difficult for me to keep something inside me, anyway. The reasons are these:
1. I've told him EVERYTHING about me. He's the only person in the world who knows EVERYTHING about me (including all the skeletons in my closet), so I don't think it'll do me any good to keep anything 'coz there's really nothing to keep. Even my other closest friends don't know THAT much about me.
2. When it comes to praising him, I don't want to keep anything since life is short. I don't wanna keep praises about him to myself and then for example the next second he has an accident and dies right on spot (GOD FORBID!!!) and I regret not saying whatever I feel about him for the rest of my life. I wanna live knowing that I've said everything good that I can towards anybody so that if I die the next minute or hour or day or that person dies soon, I have no regrets at all.
3. We never really started our relationship based on intrigue. We started our relationship based on friendship. Then the first time we started falling in love with each other, I demanded him to show me his true colours 'coz I was also committed in showing him my true colours. It's not good to base a relationship on masks. Intrigue may be interesting and fun in the beginning of a relationship (for me), but I can't live with intrigue.
I want my husband to be my best friend for as long as we shall live, even though we're going to undergo some changes in our lives due to circumstances or anything else, I still want him to share everything with me as I'll share everything with him 'coz that'll keep us close together.
4. It's TOUGH not to show your love when you're really feeling it...or for that matter, to show your disappointment or anger when you live 24/7 with somebody he he he...
Anyway, I also wanna state that my husband is imperfect, but so am I (so is everybody)...and the reason why I write down all the good things about him is that I wanna truly cherish them all. And I also wanna remember them better (human's memory isn't too reliable), so that IF for example I get mad at him, I can reread those posts about his positive sides and be reminded about those and hopefully I'll not be angry anymore. :-)))))
That said, I'm DYING to read different points of view here, especially from men HE HE HE HE HE HE HE HE...So, c'mon my male readers, don't be ashamed in sharing your views, puhhhhleeeezzzzzzzz...
P.S. Shan, THANKS for making me think and for making me question Arttu hi hi hi hi...It's always good to know more about men's POV in general and about Arttu's POV he he he...;-D I REALLY enjoy writing this post HE HE HE HE HE...
P.P.S. I don't believe that men are shallow beings, by the way. I still believe that are VERY GOOD DEEP men out there. Besides, there are shallow women out there, as well he he he...
