Fears

Note: This post is NOT about MY own personal experiences, though there are some of them that also popped out in my head sometimes...these are some imagined ones and some I've read or heard somewhere...just to make sure you don't get the wrong idea. I have NO problem with my in-laws at all and we don't live in the same house. I simply wanted to write this topic in a different way. That's all.

"Sometimes our fears just pop out by themselves uninvited. That means we're only humans. That doesn't mean we should let fears control our lives. So, time to fess up, people. What kind of fears have been popping out in your minds lately? I promise that we won't judge anything. We're just here to share."

"Well, my fear is that I will end up like my parents who always argue and fight with each other. It's as though they don't realize that they're old now and they only have a little time left on earth. I'm afraid that my husband and I will be like that when we're older."

"My secret fear is that my husband's dark past will come to haunt us in the future. He was starving for love when he was a child and he found it in the wrong place."

"I'm terrified that my spouse will change in the future and become irritable and quick-tempered. Our relationship will be in BIG trouble if that happens."

"I hope that my husband won't die young. I know if it happens I will have to survive and move on, but my life is going to be so empty without him. Everything will be so different. After all, he's been my best friend for years."

"I also have that fear about my husband, especially since he's MUCH older than me."

"I don't want my husband to ever have an affair with anyone. I know a friend whose husband asks her to do a C-section to keep herself 'intact', but he still pays women to sleep with him. In order to eliminate my fear, I have to learn to be slutty when I'm alone with him."

"Honestly speaking, I'm afraid of my mother-in-law. She keeps on criticizing me and my decisions. This has come to a point where we stop talking to each other. This is not good since we live in the same house, but what else can I do? It's the 'best' way to avoid my self-esteem from being crushed by her."

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No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:13).

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. (James 1:2-6)

Baby Blues, Finnish Humor, and Quotations

To you all mothers out there, have you experienced baby blues or post-partum depression? If so, how long did it last and how did you get through it? The reason I'm asking about this is because some friends have experienced this period of mood swing right after they gave birth to their babies. I'm just curious, that's all he he he he...

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Oh yeah, since Frasypoo's dishing out a list of Indian humor, let me share some Finnish humor. Helsingin Sanomat posted this long list, but I'll only write down what I've experienced or witnessed myself.


You Know You Have Been In Finland Too Long, When...


a. You don't think twice about putting the wet dishes away in the cupboard to dry. ----> Yep, that's VERY true indeed he he he...I don't dry my dishes with a kitchen towel unless when I want to eat and the plate is wet HA HA HA HA HA...

b. Silence is fun. ----> Too talkative people in Finland are considered "not the norm".

c. Your coffee consumption exceeds 6 cups a day and coffee is too weak if there is less than two spoonfuls per person. ----> I don't drink much coffee unless when I visit my in-laws, 'coz I can't sleep if I drink too much coffee, but the Finns DO love their coffee SO MUCH!!!

d. Sundays no longer seem dull with all the stores closed, and begin to feel restful instead. ----> Well, actually some supermarkets are open on Sundays, but the other stores are closed. I used to think it'd be SUPER dull 'coz in Indonesia, all the malls are open on weekends (from 9 to 9 pm or 10 to 10 pm).

e. You no longer look at sports pants as casual wear, but recognize them as almost formal wear.

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Okay, I haven't browsed for quotations for a while, so let me see some good quotations that I can share with all of you:

Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections, but instantly set about remedying them - every day begin the task anew.
Saint Francis de Sales

If you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. What we call failure is not the falling down, but the staying down.
Mary Pickford

Rest assured there will be times when you fall flat on your face. It will seem as if the harder you pray, the more you attempt to trust, the more holy and devout you become, the worse your life will appear to be. Things that were going well will go wrong. Things that were not so well will blow up in your face. It is a trick! Do not be fooled by appearances! Hold on to the words, the phrase, the prayer, the little bits of trust and faith you can muster. You are not being tested! You are being fortified! Remember, you cannot fail! All paths lead to the same road. The road to peace, joy, and the memory of God's Unconditional Love."
Iyanla Vanzant

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