Saturday, January 24, 2009


Note: This post is NOT about MY own personal experiences, though there are some of them that also popped out in my head sometimes...these are some imagined ones and some I've read or heard somewhere...just to make sure you don't get the wrong idea. I have NO problem with my in-laws at all and we don't live in the same house. I simply wanted to write this topic in a different way. That's all.

"Sometimes our fears just pop out by themselves uninvited. That means we're only humans. That doesn't mean we should let fears control our lives. So, time to fess up, people. What kind of fears have been popping out in your minds lately? I promise that we won't judge anything. We're just here to share."

"Well, my fear is that I will end up like my parents who always argue and fight with each other. It's as though they don't realize that they're old now and they only have a little time left on earth. I'm afraid that my husband and I will be like that when we're older."

"My secret fear is that my husband's dark past will come to haunt us in the future. He was starving for love when he was a child and he found it in the wrong place."

"I'm terrified that my spouse will change in the future and become irritable and quick-tempered. Our relationship will be in BIG trouble if that happens."

"I hope that my husband won't die young. I know if it happens I will have to survive and move on, but my life is going to be so empty without him. Everything will be so different. After all, he's been my best friend for years."

"I also have that fear about my husband, especially since he's MUCH older than me."

"I don't want my husband to ever have an affair with anyone. I know a friend whose husband asks her to do a C-section to keep herself 'intact', but he still pays women to sleep with him. In order to eliminate my fear, I have to learn to be slutty when I'm alone with him."

"Honestly speaking, I'm afraid of my mother-in-law. She keeps on criticizing me and my decisions. This has come to a point where we stop talking to each other. This is not good since we live in the same house, but what else can I do? It's the 'best' way to avoid my self-esteem from being crushed by her."

No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:13).

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. (James 1:2-6)


  1. Hi Amel,

    I also do 'feeling directory' sometimes...I think this is a brave move to be true to ourselves.

    Fear no fear, because you have the strength within yourself. And God will always be with you even when you are not.

    I blow you the warmness all the way from East Borneo Indonesia.

    Happy Weekend!

  2. Mariamellie: THANKS for your comment and visit!!! ;-D And Also your warm wishes and encouragement!!!

    Don't worry...I wrote the post not with apprehension or worry or depression. I just want to share he he he...

  3. I din know that you've got some "problem" with your MIL. I thought you are doing all so well over there. Its really hard to be staying under the same roof. It gets me worry to see this post from you cos you are always jovial n often many "hihihihi & hehehehe" on your post.

    Hugs to you Amel. May God protect you & gives smile to you on this Lunar New year eve :):)

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  5. Janice: NOOOOOOOOOO...all these thoughts aren't mine. Some are imagined thoughts of fears, some are things I've heard from other people he he he...

    I DO NOT Have any problem with my MILLLLLL!!!!! And we don't live together in the same houseeeee he he he he...

  6. hehehe amel... if you don't explain that those aren't your experiences... i thought also the same thing with others who has commented before.

    Tp bingung juga soalnya kamu kan ga tinggal sama mertua kan....

  7. Jeanne: That's why I decided to add the "note" in the beginning ha ha ha ha...Sorry for making some people confused!!!!