Thursday, December 02, 2010

Bittersweet Birthday

Had a lovely birthday even though I had work that day. What made it sad was 'coz on Sunday my MIL went to visit FIL at the hospital and he didn't remember her anymore. He did, though, say that her voice was familiar. Other than that, FIL became upset at everything easily - probably 'coz he can't remember anything much, so he's probably so scared and confused. Ugh...So prayers please...

It's hard to see your loved one like that and it makes me think of serious stuff on my birthday, such as how fleeting life is and if I ever live long enough to experience mind degeneration, I hope that everything I've done beforehand could "make up for it". It seems that the doctor has told MIL that she doesn't have to burn herself out and that he can stay in the hospital, but she wants to be with him as long as possible. So hopefully FIL's mood gets better so that MIL doesn't have an even harder task to take care of him.

Anyway, on a positive note, I got the birthday present that I wanted - 'coz I kept on insisting that R2 bought it for me HA HA HA HA...I mean, rather than "expecting" him to buy it for me, it'd just nicer to tell him straight away what I want so that in the end, we're both happy.

What did I want? A new wedding ring that fits my left ring finger perfectly. The one I have is now on a necklace 'coz it's a bit loose (even though I've gained 6 kgs ever since I moved to Finland, but my finger size stays the same). Wanna see the ring? Here goes...

We asked the jeweller's to engrave Arttu's name and our wedding date, but she said that for a wedding ring, we should put both our names, whereas for an engagement ring, you'd just put your future spouse's name and the engagement date. Interesting!!! We didn't even know it!

Anyway, I think the most important lesson of all that I've been getting over and over again so far is letting go and letting God (and finding out when to let go and to let God instead of keep forging the battle on my own). However, lately I feel that I should learn to say "no", to stand up for myself, and also to set boundaries for myself. I was actually thinking of writing a serious birthday post, but things have been hectic at work and it's going to get even more hectic 'coz Christmas and New Year are coming soon, so I may not get much free time until after New Year. So maybe the serious post can wait until then he he...

I haven't had time to blog-hop, either, but I have a free day tomorrow (AT LAST!!!), so we'll see. Take care, everybody!!!


  1. Happy belated birthday!
    I'm afraid I'm not the best person to advise you about saying no and setting boundries!
    I'm sorry to hear about your FIL. Thinking about you, hoping you can take comfort from all being there for each other.

  2. Oh and love the wedding ring! It's gorgeous. How lovely.

  3. Happy birthday Amel! It's a meaningful and lovely present!

  4. The World According to Me: I've learned to say no more often these days he I am learning, though I'm still figuring out the balance. :-D THANKS for your kind words about FIL.

    Blur Ting: THANKS and yeah...hubby loves the ring, too! :-D

  5. Happy Belated Birthday, dear friend... I'm sorry to hear about your FIL. It's hard to imagine how your MIL feels and it's even harder to think it if happens to my loved ones. :-( I will pray for them.

    I didn't know about the ring either coz' now my engagement ring has both of our names and the eng. date, but the wedding ring only has hubby's name and wed. date... I wish I've known earlier coz' what the jeweller told you did make sense to me. :-)

    Anyway, it's a meaningful gift and I hope you will get enough rest after this busy month. I'm getting busier as well, but I just don't want to fall sick. So, you too, take good care! :-)

  6. I know we discussed this on your birthday.. but I am VERY sorry about your Father in Law... and SO sorry for your Mother in Law. So sad.

    I know you have shown me the ring before.. but I found the comment about the names interesting. I think it is personal choice. I no longer wear the original ring that I was wed to Mark with.. and neither does he. I (errhhumm!) out grew mine...LOL....and his wore way thin over the years.

    It is said to be bad luck if the circle of the ring breaks.. so he took it off and we both got new. However, we had both chosen to have each others names engraved on each others original wedding rings. So his said Michelle and mine, Mark. :D I like the idea of names on the rings. Nice that you have that too. x

    Love.. Michelle x

  7. The wedding ring is awesome.
    Amel, I definitely relate to you b/c my father has Alzheimers, he may know my mom, but he continually asks her 5-10 times a day about things that have happened and that and helping lift him wears my dear Mother out. It's tough too b/c he outweighs her by 70 pounds.

  8. I love the ring and I love the lessons, but mostly I love the way you sound... sort of bolder.

    Can't explain it in words... :-\ You sound stronger in a GOOD way.

  9. Michelle: Bolder? THANKS SO MUCH for your POV. I always appreciate your POV. :-D