The other day Shan wrote in a comment that he was wondering why I could manage to stay happy. He jokingly asked if that was partly because of my hubby. Well, first of all, it's IMPOSSIBLE for any person to make somebody else happy 24/7 every day of their lives. Secondly, there haven't been any bad situations in my life (yet, hopefully never HA HA)...and thus it's easier to stay happy. Thirdly, it's not that I never feel unhappy or sad or angry or disappointed.
It's okay to be sad. It's okay to feel sorrow. It's okay to feel bad every now and then. It's okay to feel angry. It's okay to feel disappointed. Hey, life isn't constant and nobody's perfect! We're only humans, not robots. You're bound to feel all those sort of emotions, especially when a tragedy strikes unexpectedly.
What's not okay is to wallow in those emotions and let yourself pity yourself or let yourself become so engulfed in emotions that turn you into a negative, bitter, angry person. I know it's easier said than done, but one can only try and I'm determined to try my best in doing so. :-))))
Of course it gets tough to stay happy when my PMS strikes or when I lack sleep (I get cranky when I lack sleep and I CAN be "bitchy" too), but let's share with one another some happiness tips, shall we? I know that you all know what I'm going to share already, but I'm going to write them down to remind myself of the tips to be happy he he he he...
You can write them down in your own posts or in my comment section of this post. Either way it's fine, but I LOVE the blogosphere since we can learn SO MUCH from one another and we can keep reminding one another about making a difference in this world. :-)))
OK, without further ado, here're some tips from me:
1. Accepting the things we can't change (AKA surrendering to God and believing that He knows best whatever comes our way even when we don't understand it),
2. Having the courage to change the things we can change (AKA we have to do our own part and not just surrender to God without doing anything and finding out what bad habits or mistakes we should change),
3. Remembering to count your blessings every single day AND soak them all in and NOT taking anything small for granted ('coz it'll make you feel like the world is singing with you),
4. Accepting yourself as you really are and being able to forgive others and yourself,
5. Being able to understand that God's grace is beyond our imperfections (AKA knowing our worth in God and believing that we CAN make a difference through Him that strengthens us AKA not giving up on ourselves and beating ourselves up),
6. Not taking life too seriously and not taking other people's words too seriously and NOT taking yourself too seriously,
7. Expect less and give more,
8. And knowing that each day you're in charge of your own actions and reactions towards your circumstances instead of letting circumstances determine your actions and reactions.
Well, that's all I can remember for now he he he...Come on now, people, share with me some of your wisdom! ;-D
The moment when you realize that you're where you're supposed to be and that your life has meanings
The moment when you heard your parents bragged about your achievements on the phone
The moment when you hear your parents tell you that they are proud of you
The moment when your siblings or friends tell you that they miss you
The moment when your spouse comforts you without judging you or analysing your situation or giving you unwanted advice
The moment when a squirrel looked at your very eyes
The moment when the first snow touches your face
The moment when I see my husband's face lights up when I tell him that he's the best in bed and in my life
The moment when my husband looks at me as though I were the most beautiful piece of art on earth
The moment when my husband pouts his lips to ask for kisses
The moment when your loved ones' eyes sparkle when you give them a compliment or when you tell them that you love them and you're proud of them
The moment when you see your loved ones taking more servings of food that you've cooked for hours
The moment when you cherish the fact that you've got more than you need and you've got health
The moment when you realize that you can't do everything and you can't help everyone, yet you can do something worthwhile for someone or for a few people and it's still worth it
The moment when you are able to sleep with a clear conscience and a heart filled with hope for a better tomorrow
The moment when you feel God's touch when you listen to a song or when you pray or when you read something that encourages you
The moment when you realize that you are, despite yourself, loved.
I Asked God and He Said No
I asked God to take away my pride, And God said, "NO." He said it was not for Him to take away, But for me to give up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole, And God said, "NO." He said her spirit is whole, Her body is only temporary. I asked God to grant me patience, And God said, "NO." He said patience is a by-product of tribulation, It isn't granted, it is earned. I asked God to give me happiness, And God said, "NO." He said He gives blessings, Happiness is up to me. I asked God to spare me pain, And God said, "NO." He said, "Suffering draws you apart from Worldly cares and bring you closer to Me." I asked God to make my spirit grow, And God said, "NO." He said I must grow on my own, But He will prune me to make it fruitful. I asked God if He loved me, And God said, "YES." He gave me His only son, who died for me. And I will be in Heaven someday Because I believe. I asked God to help me love others As much as He loves me, And God said, "Ah finally, you have the idea."
Submitted by Rick Fortson to this site: Short Stories.
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Steps To Happiness
Everybody Knows:
You can't be all things to all people. You can't do all things at once. You can't do all things equally well. You can't do all things better than everyone else. Your humanity is showing just like everyone else's. So: You have to find out who you are, and be that. You have to decide what comes first, and do that. You have to discover your strengths, and use them. You have to learn not to compete with others, Because no one else is in the contest of *being you*. Then: You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness. You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions. You will have learned to live with your limitations. You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due. And you'll be a most vital mortal. Dare To Believe: That you are a wonderful, unique person. That you are a once-in-all-history event. That it's more than a right, it's your duty, to be who you are. That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish. And we'll be able to stay one up on what used to get us. May God Bless you and keep you safe, Father Pat
