Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Happiness Revisited

The other day Shan wrote in a comment that he was wondering why I could manage to stay happy. He jokingly asked if that was partly because of my hubby. Well, first of all, it's IMPOSSIBLE for any person to make somebody else happy 24/7 every day of their lives. Secondly, there haven't been any bad situations in my life (yet, hopefully never HA HA)...and thus it's easier to stay happy. Thirdly, it's not that I never feel unhappy or sad or angry or disappointed.

It's okay to be sad. It's okay to feel sorrow. It's okay to feel bad every now and then. It's okay to feel angry. It's okay to feel disappointed. Hey, life isn't constant and nobody's perfect! We're only humans, not robots. You're bound to feel all those sort of emotions, especially when a tragedy strikes unexpectedly.

What's not okay is to wallow in those emotions and let yourself pity yourself or let yourself become so engulfed in emotions that turn you into a negative, bitter, angry person. I know it's easier said than done, but one can only try and I'm determined to try my best in doing so. :-))))

Of course it gets tough to stay happy when my PMS strikes or when I lack sleep (I get cranky when I lack sleep and I CAN be "bitchy" too), but let's share with one another some happiness tips, shall we? I know that you all know what I'm going to share already, but I'm going to write them down to remind myself of the tips to be happy he he he he...

You can write them down in your own posts or in my comment section of this post. Either way it's fine, but I LOVE the blogosphere since we can learn SO MUCH from one another and we can keep reminding one another about making a difference in this world. :-)))

OK, without further ado, here're some tips from me:

1. Accepting the things we can't change (AKA surrendering to God and believing that He knows best whatever comes our way even when we don't understand it),

2. Having the courage to change the things we can change (AKA we have to do our own part and not just surrender to God without doing anything and finding out what bad habits or mistakes we should change),

3. Remembering to count your blessings every single day AND soak them all in and NOT taking anything small for granted ('coz it'll make you feel like the world is singing with you),

4. Accepting yourself as you really are and being able to forgive others and yourself,

5. Being able to understand that God's grace is beyond our imperfections (AKA knowing our worth in God and believing that we CAN make a difference through Him that strengthens us AKA not giving up on ourselves and beating ourselves up),

6. Not taking life too seriously and not taking other people's words too seriously and NOT taking yourself too seriously,

7. Expect less and give more,

8. And knowing that each day you're in charge of your own actions and reactions towards your circumstances instead of letting circumstances determine your actions and reactions.

Well, that's all I can remember for now he he he...Come on now, people, share with me some of your wisdom! ;-D


  1. Don't sing because you're happy. Be happy because you can sing.

  2. i know why you are always happy!

    its because of this:



  3. Yes, you're one happy girl! I believe it is also in one's nature. Maybe you have more happy genes than others.

  4. Good tips Amel... I think becoz of we have Jesus in our life, the joy of the Lord is just overflowing through our life! I can see that you shine God's love through you posts and your readers can see (read) your beautiful life. All becoz of God's provision for you.. :-D

  5. hi amel, it's been long since my last visit but i jjst want tosay i love your latest post.

    attitude is really very important and it is a choice to be happy or sad. one has the choice to make the bad thing a blessing or the blessing a bad one because in life -- there are many things that we can't personally control. and it takes so much courage to accept things not according to our wishes that is why people ended sad.

    i always project happiness but they just don't know deep inme too there's that sadness or loneliness that only God's understanding and mercy can fill. :)

    take care and happy Thursday!

    jalan jalan (what does that mean? i oftenheard that with my indo frends long time ago. hahaha)

    ahh i know KETUMBI too. :)

  6. You don't realise that besides writing, you have 1 big talent. You're good at cheering people up and motivating others. Plus you're able to see the positive side of things and you're always grateful for what you have. All these are very important qualities which many people are lacking.

  7. You said it all. Being very positive is is no use to dwell negatively on things that you can't control.... good for you! :) :)

  8. These are some great tips. I'll put some into practice today! : )



  9. I must admit, I always smile when I read your blog.
    I do think you are blessed with a sunny disposition.

    Great words of wisdom in your tips.

    And I agree, it's human to feel sad or angry sometimes, but it's how you deal with these emotions. Who wants to be bitter and twisted, and bathing in self pity? Not me, that's for sure!

  10. There is great wisdom in these ways to be happy. Thanks!

  11. 74WIXYgrad: THANKS for sharing your wisdom, Cliff! :-)))

    Jay: LOL LOL!!! You're SO FUNNY he he he...

    Blur Ting: Happy genes? Hmmm...I don't know about that, but I'd never been this sunny until I came to Finland he he he...

    Trinity: THANKS SO MUCH for your kind words. It's true that God's provision is really PERFECT and overflowing. ;-D HALLELUJAH for that he he he...

    Sunshine4Life: Yes, that's all I want to say. Attitude counts BIG TIME in life he he...and GLAD you enjoyed this post. ;-D

    And you're SO right about God's mercy and understanding. :-)))

    Jalan jalan means "taking a walk somewhere" or sometimes it means "window shopping" he he he he...

    KETUMBI? Now that one I don't even know he he he...

    Blur Ting: THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH for your compliments. It means A LOT to me. It's always good to hear that I make a difference in some people's lives. ;-D

    JYankee: Glad you enjoyed the post. ;-D Let's stay positive! ;-D

    Lori: Glad you liked the tips he he he...Blessings to you too! ;-D

    The World According to Me: THANK YOU for telling me this. I want people to be happy when they read my posts he he he...

    And yep, I don't wanna make myself look like I'm never sad or disappointed or angry...but it all comes back to ourselves and how we deal with it. STAY POSITIVE yourself! ;-D

    Kathy: Glad you enjoyed this post! ;-D

  12. Yeah, your happiness is infectious haha! Reading your posts always bring a smile to my face.

    That's necessary now 'cause I'm sick and tired of my job. I need to take advice 2 and change...

  13. Shan: GOOD LUCK in finding a different type of job!!! I'm SO glad that my posts make you smile. :-))))))