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The Introvert Cave is one of my fave dwelling places. I can read things I'm interested in reading, but I can also stay away from things that I don't want to read (like visiting FB where inadvertently I'll be reading random thoughts and info about other people's lives randomly). Enough is enough. Self-care is important as well. I also listen to a lot of music during this time, as well as instrumental music.
During my Introvert Cave period, I always feel lighter. It's like taking a short break in nature without having to interact with other people too much. I think the benefit of staying in the Introvert Cave every now and then is like an excellent full-body massage - the difference is that the benefit is felt by the mind and soul instead of the body. But hey, if it's good for the mind and soul, wouldn't it also benefit the body? :-D
Yeah, yeah, I know I'm rambling here. I didn't exactly prepare this post, so I was just typing whatever came to my mind. :-D Ahem. Anyway, I saw this quote a while ago in FB.
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I was wondering why I couldn't choose number 1 AND 3. I know that it only works if the thing that you let define you makes you feel that you have a cause to work for. It wouldn't work if the thing that you let define you makes you feel like a victim, but I think it can work if the thing that you let define you makes you feel like a survivor and then you let it strengthen you.
Case in point: in the beginning, I felt like a victim of infertility and I was so angry in so many ways, but these days I feel like a survivor that enjoys sharing infertility links to many people in order to spread awareness. I think many people have survived this way through bad things: to find a cause or something that they feel can be of use to other people after they've experienced a tragedy.
What do you think, readers?
I love the way you describe your cave. I also like to retreat sometimes. I like to think and rest, when I crave my own company and some quiet time. I think it's healthy for the soul.
ReplyDeleteWhen you write about being a survivor and spreading awareness, I think I understand.
Since loosing my brother in a car crash, many years ago now, I've come across many people who have suddenly lost loved ones. I even work with two people who also abruptly lost their brothers, I always sympathise and offer understanding and a little bit of advice. I figure if I can help people, try to make them feel a tiny bit better, bring some optimism back in their life, well I think it's pretty important and some good has come out of something so terrible.
My mum said something the other day which stuck n my brain - we're always looking forward but sometimes it's good to look back and see how far you've come.
Thank you for sharing your survivor story. I think if we can't find anything good out of a terrible thing, it can be the doom of us.
DeleteYour mum's a wise woman. I love what she said. It's very true indeed. Life is to be understood backwards, they say. :-)
Oh boy, I need time in the cave or my brain turns to fuzz. I can get clumsy and forgetful if I don't get enough alone time. And irritable! :P And yes, you teach/share best what you've had to experience for yourself. That's why Jung spoke of the Wounded Healer. Umm... I think it was Jung?
ReplyDeleteHmmmm...I've only heard that term now from you he he...but I like it. Wounded Healer. :-) I've gotta google it up. :-)
DeleteOh boy, I need time in the cave or my brain turns to fuzz. I can get clumsy and forgetful if I don't get enough alone time. And irritable! :P And yes, you teach/share best what you've had to experience for yourself. That's why Jung spoke of the Wounded Healer. Umm... I think it was Jung?
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