Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Adult Post: About Vaginismus

Today I was let off work 3 hours earlier, 'coz there was simply nothing else to do. How could that happen? Well, yesterday there were two young male trainees (perhaps only around 15-16 years old) who came to help us, so we managed to clean up so many rooms. Today there were not many people leaving, so we only had to clean 5 rooms altogether. After that we asked the boys to clean up some other parts of the hotel while we cleaned other parts. Tomorrow's going to be a LONG day 'coz a group of people came today and they'll leave tomorrow. I HOPE they're not going to leave too late - otherwise we'll be in HUGE trouble!!!

Anyway, about the title of this post...the other day I saw a talk show concerning vaginismus. Click on the link to find out more about this.

One couple in the talk show had only succeeded to do intercourse ONCE during their 7 year of marriage. Yep, just once, but you know what? THEY GOT A CHILD as a result of that (yeah, yeah, I know it only takes once to have a child, but for someone who've tried for over a year, it is a "miracle" to do it just once and be pregnant because of it"! ;-D

Anyway, the wife said that before marriage they were both virgins and her mother had been telling her how painful sex was and that it was ALWAYS going to be painful and that if the husband wanted it, she had to "please him". I guess that also affected this woman's conscience. Plus she was diagnosed as having the worst level of vaginismus: level 4. Yep, before watching the show, I didn't even know there were levels of vaginismus!!!

So every time they tried to have sex, she would scream and they had to pile up several pillow on top of her to block the sound. That was why the husband couldn't "continue", because he felt like he was doing something bad to her. What about that one time, you wonder? Well, that day the wife was feeling a little under the weather and the medicine she took made her feel half "out of this world". So that was the only time they could do it.

Another couple had a breakthrough with Botox injection. The wife was molested when she was a child, so when she got married they couldn't do intercourse. After being shot "down there" several times by Botox (in several parts), they could finally made love and they stated that they had been making love every day after that. *grin*

Anyway, problem comes when women who experience vaginismus are told by the doctors that "it's all in your head", whereas the problem may be clinical. From the site I put here in this post, I found out that there are also two types of vaginismus: primary and secondary.

It's always good to learn about things we don't know before, don't you think so? I don't even know why I'm writing about this. I guess I just want to share what I found out he he...I'll blog-hop either later or during the weekend. Until then, stay safe, everybody!!!


  1. Interest story, Amel. Thanks for sharing this story.

  2. that sounds like a terrible illness. Sex is a very powerful way to stay connected with your spouse, lover, significant other. it would be terrible to go that long without it!

  3. nice to know about this. i have no problem at all with this, lol.lucky us!

  4. It's all in our heads, yeah, I guess I have to agree on that part. Thanks for sharing this, Amel. At least we have better understanding what other couples go through.

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  7. Hey Amel,

    Poor woman! Her mother didn't help her situation much, did her? (I am guessing she too suffered from vaginismus and didn't know, thus to her sex was always painful).

    You are almost leaving to Indo, right? :D
    And don't worry, everything will happen in the right time ;)!

    Have a great week, girl!


  8. Ouch, that sounds painful. What a thing to have to go through. Some people really do have lots to deal with, whilst other people breeze through life.

  9. Jul: UR welcome. :-)))

    Vince: Indeed it sounds horrible, doesn't it? I agree with you about sex.

    Imelda: Yeah, I don't think it's that common, so no wonder many doctors would tell them "it's all in your head".

    Choc Mint Girl: Oh, no, Crystal, actually it's usually more than just a psychological problem (fear of sex, etc.), so it is a medical problem.

    Hiro: THANKS for linking me. I'll visit you later. :-)))

    Max: Indeed I agree with your observation. Her mother probably has the same medical problem. I'll leave to Indo on the last day of October. :-D

    The World According to Me: Yep...well said. :-)))