Wednesday, May 16, 2012

The Highlight of Our Vienna Trip

*cross-posted with my IF blog*

The highlight of our Vienna trip was actually the conversation we had with a mutual friend. This woman came to Sodankylä a few years ago and then went back to her home country. Back then we used to hang out every now and then and chat about anything. When she lived here, I was in the throes of TTC, so I shared with her our hopes and dreams.

So naturally after not having met for years, she asked us about baby program. She also told us that she had just started talking about having kids with her boyfriend. So I shared with her what we had experienced until we ended up with our decision to surrender to a life without kids. 

She asked about adoption and I explained to her our decision. I didn't take it the wrong way 'coz I know she cared. Actually, sharing what I know about adoption and the maximum age difference between the parents and the adopted child made her think. She's now at my age when we started TTC, so she wants to learn more about her options IF for some reason the natural way doesn't work (though I hope it'll work well for her).

What really touched me and made me happy was the fact that she asked R2 about his job and life and R2 said, "I'm happy." It's one thing to hear from your spouse that he's happy, but it's a different thing to hear him say to someone else that he's happy in life. The unsaid words are "even without kids". :-D So I'm THANKFUL for this memory.  


  1. i don't know what to say in this case, just *HUGS*

  2. Jul: THANKS for the hug, Jul, but this is a happy post. :-D

  3. Beautiful post, Amel. May your happiness (and R2's) continue to grow :)

  4. @Katriina: Amennnn...THANK YOU! :-D

  5. Yes, big hugs to you. It's just wonderful that you and R2 have found happiness. :)

  6. It's got to be great to hear R2 say that when, before you reconciled to the decision, it caused so much difficulty when you were in the midst of trying to have kids.
    The "decision to surrender to a life without kids" is a well-written, strong reminder that as much as we want certain things in our lives, God is in charge. I've been reminded that I have to accept certain limitations after my big surgery this past March.

  7. @Elena: THANKS. :-D

    @Vince: Yeah, it was hellish when we were trying to have a child without any result. It's much better this way. :-D THANK YOU for your kind words. Surrender isn't the same as giving up. :-D