Tuesday, April 22, 2008

The Straw That Broke the Camel's Back

That was what happened yesterday in our course. One of us cried and became very emotional. At first I thought the problem was her frustration over learning Finnish. Turned out that her personal problem had been building up and yesterday the "bomb" exploded. Today she told me in brief about what had happened and she said that crying and talking about it helped her somewhat.

Don't we all experience that kind of moment? When the "bomb" explodes since we've put everything aside and the pressure gets bigger and bigger and bigger until we can no longer hold it? Sometimes it may seem as if the cause is something relatively lighter, but when we looked back, we realize that the big issue isn't the trigger. The trigger is just the straw that broke the camel's back.

Let's become more aware of ourselves so that we don't allow ourselves to experiences such "explosions". We all need someone (at least one person) we can trust to share our burdens and problems with. Women especially need to unleash their emotions by speaking it out loud. Blessed are those who have true friends to turn to. :-D

One thing for sure, though, when you've just moved to a new country, expects crying days. :-))) That's only a normal phase of life.


  1. Having an explosion or a "melt down" as they say over here are especially bad at work. I remember working in the food service at college, and I burst into tears over something that was basically a misunderstanding. But people treated me with much contempt and some even made fun of me after that.

    Here's a good thought about friends: A friend is someone who knows your faults and loves you anyway.

  2. When things in life accumulate and become too much to take, it's very common that a very small incident can trigger an explosion like this.

    Hope your friend is feeling better. It's good that you are a good listener. She needs that!

    You are really one great buddy!

  3. Sometimes they're just feeling emotional because of PMS and they'll feel better in a day or two.Of course, it could be other things, that's when having someone to talk to will really help.

  4. Yes, and blessed are those who has a blog to pour their burdens and troubles... blessed are those who can write their feeling down... blessed are those who has friends in blogsphere that hear and support them... Whoa! We are blessed!

    thanks for your feedback about my mini series Amel.. :-)

  5. yeah that's true that we need someone we trust to share anything. i did it too with my best friends that i know for years.

  6. How very true - the straw that broke the camels back. Sometimes it's the small stuff that we explode at, because we've let the pressure build way too much.

    Everyone needs someone they can talk too and someone they can turn too.
    I imagine you really helped her by listening and caring.

  7. Oh, I feel sorry for your friend. Hope she's getting better. I love the phrase for W, "Walk with you, side by side..."

    Well, actually of them are beautiful. :)

  8. Oh, yes, we all have that happen sometimes. I know I sometimes hold things in and they build up too much and then I suddenly start to cry.

  9. Hi Amel, I hope your friend is feeling better. I was in a situation where things just exploded about 6months ago. I had a friend who was very judgmental, but rather than say anything I kept my mouth shut because I didn't want to rock the boat. The straw that broke the camel's back was when she said she wasn't going to go on another date with a guy she had been seeing because he wasn't in her 'league'. I felt it was such an awful thing to say on top of everything else that I just couldn't keep quiet. Suffice to say we are no longer friends. I think eventually the outcome would have been the same, but I know I could have handled it better.

  10. WHOOPS, forgot to reply to these comments!!!

    Vince: It happened to me once at work, too, when I tried working in an office. I was SO embarrassed, but nobody made fun of me. I think it's not good that people treated you like that, Vince!!!

    LOVE your quote on friendship! ;-D

    WaterLearner: Yeah, I think she's doing better now. ;-D

    Blur Ting: Yeah, sometimes PMS happens, too he he he...

    Trinity: Yes, we're TRULY blessed indeed! ;-D

    Jeanne: THANK GOD for friends, eh? ;-D

    The World According to Me: Yup, you're right about the pressure building up. :-)))

    Choc Mint Girl: HE HE HE...GLAD you loved the friendship bit. ;-D

    Fish: I also dislike people who talk about other people like that. It's so rude! :-((( I understand why you couldn't keep quiet anymore!