Friday, October 16, 2009

Inappropriate Gratefulness

The other day a friend shared with me about this topic. She has been having problems having a child and she had at least one miscarriage in the past. She's been married for over 4 years. When she told another friend about her gyno's diagnosis, this woman (who's had 2 healthy kids) suddenly burst out, "Oh, I'm SO lucky that I didn't have to experience any morning sickness, bleeding, or miscarriage both times I was pregnant. Now I feel that God loves me SO much!" can imagine what my friend felt when she heard that outburst of gratitude. Of course it was logical for the woman to feel that way, but still it was really inappropriate to say those words, don't you think so?

When a person is hurting and needing comfort and sympathy, that person doesn't need more "knives" stabbing her already painful wounds. The story made me think, though. Have I ever done such a thing to anyone (whether I realize it or not)?

Words have destroy, hurt, encourage, empower, challenge, criticize, praise, give comfort, etc. We may not be able to control what the other person thinks about the words said or written to him/her (because people can take even praise the wrong way), but still we need to be careful with our words.

Anyway, have a FAB weekend, everybody!!! I'll blog-hop a bit later on. Now time to make some baked pancakes I've been wanting to try HE HE HE HE HE...

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”


  1. I agree that was really inappropriate and insensitive. Some people are like that unfortunately.

  2. Yes, I agree! Very thoughtless to say that out loud.

    Of course one should be grateful, but for Heaven's sake we should think before we state how lucky we are in front of someone who is not.

    Happy weekend, Amel :)

  3. Oh Amel.. that's bloody awful! Very insensitive.. as it makes the other person feel that God doesn't love HER. That's really sad. I hope that your friend can bounce back from her other friends ill thought out comment. :(

    I have to say on another note, that I - REALLY LOVE YOUR NEW HEADER! Another lovely Amel photo! :D

  4. Everybody: Indeed it was so insensitive that I was shocked when I heard about this. Ugh...I think my friend has bounced back, though. :-)))

    Mrs. Arctic Rainbow: Glad you liked it. I was thinking last night that it was time to change my blog header to make it look fresher he he...

  5. It's true that words can really hurt more than a million knives.