Monday, June 18, 2007


Finished reading "The 5 People You Meet in Heaven" by Mitch Albom today. I'd recommend the book to anyone, even though I'm more impressed with his "Tuesdays with Morrie". "Tuesdays with Morrie" left a HUGE impression on me as I read it when I was wondering about the very things that the book could answer for me in a realistic way (because the book was based on a real story).

Anyway, some parts of the book made me think of something: love or true love. What is true love?

I tried googling the question. Here are the things I find:

1. This one is shocking: Learn How to Understand Men - And Beat Them at Their Own Game. EEEHHHHHH??????????? Beat men at their own game? It only works if the women think that it's a game. Crazy world indeed.

2. Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action - true love.

Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and in truth.

I John 3:18 (NIV) ---- Taken from this site: What Is True Love?

But than what does real love look and feel like? Maybe it’s when two people seem to know each other for ages and even in their previous lives. They can go on talking and talking and conversation never lacks topics and never gets dull. Or people don’t have to say anything because they understand each other without words. And those moments, minutes and even hours of silence are never uncomfortable. True love is when partners complete one another, when they’re together it’s peaceful, the whole other world with it’s sufferings and problems doesn’t exist and nothing even matters.

True love means understanding. One trusts another more than him/herself and feels ready to satisfy every little need of a partner. Two people don’t stop for a second looking into each other eyes. Taken from this site: True Love.

This is what I found in Mitch Albom's "The 5 People You Meet in Heaven":

People say they "find" love, as it if were an object hidden by a rock. But love takes many forms, and it is never the same for any man and woman. What people find then is a CERTAIN love.

I kinda like the way he describes "love". Our own personal kind of love. What do YOU think? What's your take on love/true love? Feel free to share your own personal kind of love. :-D I LOVE LOVE stories! :-D

For me, love is a miracle. At least that's the case with me and my husband. I did have a "wrong" kind of relationship once but it helped me find out what I truly wanted in a relationship. Best of all, I found myself (again, in a deeper way - yep, silly me lost myself during the relationship) after it ended. Ever since I was a teenager, I always had some kinds of images (wishes) in my head about the kind of lifetime partner I wanted to have. Then along the years I added more and more points. By getting to know more people and finding out which ones pushed my buttons, I began to have a more specific list of what I wanted from my own lifetime partner. It never crossed my mind whether I was going to find that person or not. I just hoped and hoped and hoped and waited and waited. And right now I can say that he's more than what I ever hoped for. Why more? Because he's real. He's no longer JUST a list in my head. ^_______________________________^


  1. I like the "Love is Understanding" one. Love differs with each person, the definition and execution, but to truly make an effort to understand someone (even yourself) and not condemn actions that may seem different than your own?

    That's true love!



  2. Ah that was amazing! I did that too - the list thing. Only I actually wrote it out. :-)) I was sitting thinking.. what would I really like in a man? and I jotted down this list.

    The weird thing is I got everything I asked for. Of course the "real thing" has it's disadvantages. I listed wanting a strong-willed man who stood up for his beliefs - I got one! I joke now that maybe I should have left out the "strong-willed" and gone for "obeys her every wish" lol ;-)

    No, I'm actually very happy that I got exactly what I listed wanting.

    As for love and true love? I really don't think there is any easy way to define that, but I do think love is like a plant. It needs to be taken care of in order to keep growing healthily. (I keep ending back with plants today!)

    I fell in love with Sandy four times. :-)1. On the internet, 2. when I met him, 3. when I met him again after we were apart and 4. after we were married and moved to Scotland. Every time it ha been a litle different, a little "deeper". I never expected that. It was a wonderful surprise. :-)

  3. THX for your comment, Victorya!!! :-))) I just felt sometimes that the world yearned too much to find the kind of love in the Hollywood movies he he he...

    Hey, M, I know EXACTLY what you mean. I got everything I asked for myself. And as to falling in love with's happened to me, too!!!!

    I think it's one of the BEST advantages of having a long-distance relationship (provided that it lasts)...I've fallen in love with Arttu over and over again he he he...even though it seems "impossible". I mean, we started falling in love in 2000. My friends who had had a normal relationship for 2 or 3 years had become "bored". Being separated for some time does keep the fire of love burning, eh? (I mean if the relationship works and lasts HA HA)

    And I agree about the plant thing. Loving is hard work. It's a verb, not just a noun he he he...

  4. ahhh impressive

    what you need next is:

    "What is Unrequitted Love"

    Do that for me Amelia haha

  5. He he he...well, just check out these sites, Shan:,,2053306,00.html

    When I was younger (meaning before I had a "wrong" relationship as my first relationship), I used to have lots of unrequited love. I had crushes on guys from afar. Some of them never knew I existed, but it was fun he he he...I enjoyed those moments. One time I had a crush on my church friend and I got SOOOO jealous whenever another female church friend sat near him. LOL!!! I never got to tell him how I felt. I was too shy.

    Any personal experience on unrequited love, Shan? Why don't you write it down on your blog? I can't write too much about unrequited love as I never did anything much about those crushes.